Grief and Bereavement

Finding Your Peace

During our lifetime, we all experience loss in various forms

Whether it be a, friend, family member. or a beloved pet

It's a part of my life too. I've lost pets, friends and family members

You are not alone in this

Also know, Grief and loss is not just about people and pets

It includes, the loss of relationships, through divorce or separation, jobs and other changes in our lives

Which can have exactly the same impact

As an Holistic therapist, I've been helping my clients with their holistic health and well being

Not just spiritually, but mentally and emotionally too
And through this, Bereavement Counselling has played a big part

Talking about Grief and loss is very emotional

Its personal to you and you alone

Maybe you feel like a burden to your friends or family, when talking

Maybe they don't understand

Let me assure you

I'm here to listen and support you

Grief & Bereavement Counselling at Eternal Aquarius

What to Expect

It's always a time of heartfelt emotion, when experiencing the loss of loved one or pet

Life without them may seam unbearable

The grief you're feeling, may feel overwhelming, confusing and exhausting

Lets talk

Our first consultation is all about you, how you feel and how i can help you

And we take our time

If you'd like to bring with you, a picture of your loved one, friend or pet, Id be honored to meet them

For real people, is what its all about

Then from here, we we start your healing journey, together

The number of sessions depends on you and what you are working through

I am bound by an ethical framework, which means,

I commit to only working with you, if I really believe I can help you

As with any counselling everything we discuss is private and confidential

If you think you would benefit from some help, guidance and support

please get in touch

1 hour Consultation £35.00

The Right Words

As we all know, it's difficult to find the right words to say, especially at a time of sadness and loss

So how should you send your condolences?

Well, that's not an easy question to answer.

But it really is important, to let the bereaved know,

how much you care

It truly does, offer comfort at such a heartbreaking time. And when it comes from the heart, it's even more profound

Because sometimes, "sorry for your loss" just isn't enough

With this in mind, here are some quotes and messages you can use

Either copy them as they are or change them to sound more like you

Adapt them, to include your memories or stories of the person who has passed away. This is really important. The bereaved who read it, feel more peace, warmth and love and can smile or laugh at the memory

Yes laugh, its not all about doom and gloom. We need to laugh too because of your sentiment. It really makes their personality and their life on this earth worthwhile. It honours the deceased at this time of loss

Don't forget to add family members names and also the name of the deceased

My story of Bereavement

My first bereavements were the family dogs, the guinea-pigs, rabbits etc but i was too young to understand.

but gosh did i miss them.

My next bereavement was my Grandpa . Huge impact. This man was my world. I was still too young to understand but the screaming from my heart was louder than an earthquake. Everyone else's needs came first. So I started to fade inside, rebel, fight and I found my inner protection for such hurt and my outer mask to hide it

(not detrimental, these were different times, different relationships, different understandings )

Then my Gran, And this rocked me side ways. Because as much as she was old 99, she was my constant.

And somehow, i had to behave like the Parent to everyone. Those older, those younger. Hold everyone steady as they fell apart. I felt i wanst allowed any emotion. My falling apart happened later in silence. These bereavements, were all very very sad and my world as I knew it, had now significantly changed

Then out the blue went my mom, by this time i was training in counselling. Yes it was really sad. But im now older and have a better understanding. More importantly, you need to know:

ALL relationships are very different. Age, as well as understanding, closeness and my spiritual path had an impact too

But the best part; was the memories: the laughter from people who told us uplifting and inspiration stories.

The fun mom i never knew ( for me personally, the parent and child relationship was very different to friends and work colleagues and even my siblings. . Some are close to parents , some arnt )

To be fair, most of which i had no idea about, actually considered or even witnessed. So there you are.

But it was really really great to hear. It gave me a different perspective. A very new outlook

And then there was my friend. Ooh dear. The memories. Bombarding my holiday to the Maldives and readdressing my solo traveler plans, for her own agenda to get her paddy cert and scuba dive

Drive me round the twist and at the same time, make me spit my drink out , right across the room with laughter at the most embarrassing and in-opportune moments

Surprise me with fireworks on my birthday. Dance till will dropped, skinny dip in stupid places , be the super confident, head-strong caring person with an answer to every problem, then break down in tears, as the most vulnerable pathetic creature you've ever met

Again: the memories: the laughter, the tears and dare i say it: the most hilarious, god awful, stupid, embarrassing, even more hilarious times. This is what I'll always remember

These are what your bereaved need and want to hear. These are the most diverse , hilarious, embarrassing, uplifting , nutty, pathetic and comforting, dam right truths, that really make memories and they stay with us

AND make the celebration of life WORTHWHILE & MORE MEMORABLE

And then there was Our Queen: Yes Our Queen Elizabeth II. I hadnt even considered her relationship, till she passed.

The only other constant in my life. I didnt know her, never met her. But she was ALWAYS there.

This loss caught me and my feelings by surprise

And this is why bereavement and loss is so profound.

You never know how a loss impacts you, no matter what the relationship

Messages of
Condolence

Quotes

I’m so sorry. My heart goes out to you. My deepest sympathies to you and your family

I’m going to miss her/him too. I wish you peace and comfort as you grieve

What a beautiful life she/he lived. My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief

There are no words for such an unimaginable loss. You’re in my thoughts/prayers/heart

My heart is heavy today, and I know yours is too. Please accept our (insert names) deepest condolences for your loss

Words can’t describe how sorry I am at this loss. You’re in my prayers. As you go through this difficult time, remember that you are so loved

You and your family are in my thoughts as you grieve this loss. All my love

I wish I could be there to comfort you as you grieve. I’m holding you in my heart

What a great loss to the world. She/he will be missed by so many

My heart goes out to you and to everyone who loved her/him. This is such a huge loss for a lovely person, who will be deeply missed

I was so sorry to hear of your loss. Remembering your great love story today and always

A lifetime together is never enough. I am thinking of both of you with so much love

I know your love will always continue, even though you are parted. Your loving marriage was an inspiration to me/us

I’ll always remember the love in your eyes when you looked at each other. Your love story is beautiful to all who know you. I’m keeping you all in my thoughts

Although I don’t know you well, your mother/father was one of my closest friends and s/he spoke of you often. I know s/he loved you so much and prepared you to handle this tragic loss. You’re in my thoughts and prayers

I never met your mom/dad/brother sister, but I can tell how wonderful s/he must have been just by knowing you. We reflect the best parts of our parents thanks to the loving way they raised us. Take comfort in your memories as you grieve

Your father/mother/sister was like a second dad/mom/sister to me growing up. I’ve always remembered the good times and the lessons s/he taught me. All my love in this hard time

I’m so glad I had a chance to know your sister/brother. He/she was a special person who will be so sorely missed

I wish I had been able to meet your sister/brother. I know from your stories how special s/he was

I know this life was a struggle for him/her. And going home was the peace they craved for. Keep a hold of your precious memories. They’ll give you comfort during this difficult time. I pray now, that s/he has found the true peace they were searching for

I know words can’t take away the hurt you’re feeling, but I want you to know how much I care. Sending you love and strength in this time of loss

His/her life was far too short, but it made a big impact on the world. I’ll always remember him/her. I’m lighting a candle in your dear loved one’s honor

ive just seen your "story" regarding your dads passing.

Im so so sorry to hear this. You must be beside yourself and feel like you're on an emotional roller coaster. I cant pretend to know how you feel , as we all manage differently, with the passing of a parent

But id like you to know I can empathise. Its not easy, no matter how expected or unexpected his passing was. Always know his love will remain in your heart, as it always has and always will.

So im not going to wish you a happy New Year, as much as id like to . But to give you my love and hugs

“What is lovely never dies, but passes into another loveliness, star-dust or sea-foam, flower or winged air.”

— Thomas Bailey Aldrich

“The darker the night, the brighter the stars; the deeper the grief, the closer is God!” — Fyodor Dostoevsky

“All things grow with time, except grief.” — Jewish proverb

“I know for certain that we never lose the people we love, even to death. They continue to participate in every act, thought and decision we make. Their love leaves an indelible imprint in our memories.” —Leo Buscaglia

“What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls a butterfly.” —Richard Bach

“Like a bird singing in the rain, let grateful memories survive in time of sorrow.” —Robert Louis Stevenson

“To have been loved so deeply, even though the person who loved us is gone, will give us some protection forever.”

—J.K. Rowling

“Say not in grief ‘he is no more’ but in thankfulness that he was.” —Hebrew Proverb

“Darkness may hide the trees and the flowers from the eyes but it cannot hide love from the soul.” —Rumi

“What we have once enjoyed we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.” —Helen Keller

“Only a moment you stayed, but what an imprint your footprints have left on our hearts.” —Dorothy Ferguson

“There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart.” —Mahatma Gandhi

“Do not cry because they are past! Smile, because they once were!” —Ludwig Jacobowski

“It’s so much darker when a light goes out than it would have been if it had never shone.” —John Steinbeck

“Like a bird singing in the rain, let grateful memories survive in time of sorrow.” —Robert Louis Stevenson

“What is lovely never dies, but passes into another loveliness, star-dust or sea-foam, flower or winged air.”

—Thomas Bailey Aldrich

“Only people who are capable of loving strongly can also suffer great sorrow, but this same necessity of loving serves to counteract their grief and heals.” —Leo Tolstoy

“If the people we love are stolen from us, the way to have them live on is to never stop loving them.” —James O’Barr

“Life is eternal, and love is immortal, and death is only a horizon; and a horizon is nothing save the limit of our sight.”

—Rossiter W. Raymond

“Oh heart, if one should say to you that the soul perishes like the body, answer that the flower withers, but the seed remains.” —Kahlil Gibran

“There is a land of the living and a land of the dead and the bridge is love, the only survival, the only meaning.”
—Thornton Wilder

“To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die.”
—Thomas Campbell

As long as you live, your loved one will live on through you

Take my hand
and lean on me

Eternal Aquarius